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Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love Paperback – August 22, 2019

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Is there a science to love?

In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now.

Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes.

In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

*ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.
*AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
*SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers readers a wealth of advice on how to navigate their relationships more wisely given their attachment style and that of their partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.
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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ PAN MACMILLAN U.K; International Edition (August 22, 2019)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 304 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1529032172
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1529032178
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 7.8 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.12 x 0.83 x 7.72 inches
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    Amir Levine, M.D., is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at the New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University, where he is currently a Principal Investigator on a research project sponsored by the National Institutes of Health. Dr. Levine has a private practice in New York City, where he lives with his family.

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    Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. studied Organizational Psychology at Columbia University. She now works with children, adolescents parents, and educational systems as a psychologist both in the public sector and in private practice. Rachel lives near Tel Aviv with her husband and three children.

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    Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. studied Organizational Psychology at Columbia University. She now works with children, adolescents parents, and educational systems as a psychologist both in the public sector and in private practice. Rachel lives near Tel Aviv with her husband and three children.

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SSeering
5.0 out of 5 stars Informative
Reviewed in the United States on February 1, 2024
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I bought this audio book and listened to it in 3 days! I couldn’t stop listening. Very informative, simple to understand and makes the reader/ listener take an introspective look at themselves. The author also inspires change to develop a healthy attachment style and offers tips to do so. I will listen to it again as I’m sure I’ll pick up more information that I missed the first time. Also bought as a gift because it’s so good!
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Nayday79
5.0 out of 5 stars Great read
Reviewed in the United States on November 4, 2023
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Listened to this book several times! This is a must read
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Jeff
5.0 out of 5 stars Insanely helpful
Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2023
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Incredibly eye opening and an easy read. Couldn't put it down
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Tiffany Dawn
4.0 out of 5 stars Amazingly insightful and helpful book
Reviewed in the United States on January 18, 2021
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This will become one of those books that I frequently gift to friends. I read it in one weekend, and was amazed to recognize not only myself (anxious) but also a recent ex that I can't seem to get out from under my skin. (he's textbook avoidant) It really helped to process some feelings of "what did I do wrong?" However, I do agree with many of the reviews - it left me wanting MORE. How can an anxious and an avoidant work it out? Surely it can be done in some cases. And aside from picturing a secure relationship (not many come to mind in my world), what are ways I can do some self work to address my anxious attachment style? I would definitely read a "sequel" to this book, with more tips and insight. Some of the improvement suggestions felt glossed over, where I'd rather have a whole second book. The writing is easy to read and not overly scientific and the relationship examples were easily relatable.
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Niel Malan
5.0 out of 5 stars The most important book I have ever read.
Reviewed in the United States on December 12, 2023
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If you have perpetual struggles with relationships, Attached should be a book you read. Then read it again. Them re read it. I have hundreds of books on various topics related to psychology, self help, personal transformation, and the list continues.

Attached is the most important by a country mile! Followed by Mindset by Carol Dweck and then Feeling Great by Dr. David Burns. In fact if you read only these three books and deeply internalise them and implement what you read, it will double if not triple your chances of a happy, healthy and rewarding life.

Here is why Attached is #1:

1. 73% of over 300 college grads surveyed said they will forego all their life goals if they could have a great relationship (luckily you can have it all)

2. If you are of the 50% of people who do not have a secure attachment style, you cannot succeed in relationships unless you are with someone that is. Not possible

3. If you find yourself perpetually on dating apps, you will perpetually date other avoidants and anxious attached people. Secures don’t use dating apps - there is now hard science to back this up

4. Most self help advise that tells you that you have to be the only person you love and rely on is BS. There is no clinical evidence that this is is true and this book will back it up

5. There is nothing that will bring more joy, or misery, to a person’s life than relationships, not only romantic. Nothing! But you already know this. Why not study the one science that can make the single biggest needle moving difference in your life? It just makes sense

Trust me on this. Buy the book. Read it slowly, cover to cover. Then read it again to pick up everything you missed.

Its truly that important.
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watergirl
5.0 out of 5 stars Very informative and helpful
Reviewed in the United States on August 19, 2023
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Love this book an think everyone should read it. Chances are you know someone and have dated someone with either an anxious or avoidant attachment. My therapist recommended it to me and I'm so glad she did. I have bought it for several friends now as well
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Sandra Dickey
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Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2023
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I feel like its helpful for a relationship knowing what your style of attachment is so you can have a healthier relationship, if you can get your partner to do this too good because communication is key
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KH
5.0 out of 5 stars How to pick a romantic partner who is a good long-term fit with you
Reviewed in the United States on March 18, 2023
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I read a lot of self-growth books, and this was one of the best. During all the years I was married I tried so hard to have an emotionally close relationship with my husband-at-the-time, but it seemed that whenever we would start to be really close he would turn the opposite direction. We are divorced now, and as I read this book I could so clearly see we were not a good fit because I'm "anxious" (desires closeness) and he's "avoidant" (is triggered by closeness). I learned what a "secure" person acts like, and how to identify each of the three types so that going forward I can choose someone who matches my desire for an emotionally close relationship instead of being triggered by it. And for people already in a relationship like that, it gives tools on how to meet both people's needs the best.
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Frank Bourque
5.0 out of 5 stars What an eye opener!
Reviewed in Canada on December 30, 2021
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The baseline of our personality in terms of how we interact with and expect from, our significant other, outlined. More geared towards the younger generation getting into relationships, but very useful for us older married folk as well. I so wish I would have had this insight 30 years ago!! This explains so much and made me realize how differently I would do things if I could!! Good and bad.
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Cliente Kindle
5.0 out of 5 stars Mandatory read
Reviewed in Brazil on October 28, 2021
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Everyone who desires a healthy and constructive relationship( or to improve yours) should read this book. Most people don't even know how much they need this.
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Viyan
5.0 out of 5 stars À lire !
Reviewed in France on May 5, 2024
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Un livre sur les relations à lire au moins une fois. Il donne les bases sur la théorie de l’attachement. Par contre n’est traiter que l’attachement anxieux et évitant avec le secure. Le fearful avoidant ou anxieux-évitant
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5.0 out of 5 stars A brilliant reae
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 20, 2024
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I was recommended this book by my counsellor and it is brilliant. Very informative but easy to follow along with. The book itself is compact enough to pop in your bag on a journey and it really does give perspective and advice.
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Alessandra M.
5.0 out of 5 stars Il cuore ha le sue ragioni che l’attaccamento conosce
Reviewed in Italy on December 18, 2023
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Libro bellissimo, da quando l’ho comprato l’avrò riletto almeno 10 volte. Parla dei tre tipi essenziali di attaccamento e delle ricerche fatte a partire da Bowlby, ci sono dei test interessantissimi per definire il proprio stile di attaccamento e quello del partner.
È scorrevole e presenta esempi concreti di come si comportano le persone sicure, ansiose ed evitanti.
L’unica critica che posso muovere è il non approfondimento dello stile disorganizzato che viene a mala pena accennato e un approfondimento minore nei confronti degli evitanti (mentre per l’attaccamento ansioso ci sono consigli interessantissimi). Lo ricomprerei comunque mille volte.
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